Monday, 11 March 2013

A word not to remember


Almost all of my readers know , I have a twin.  I am a teen with a twin. A complicated thing. A girl who is just like me in facial features , but very change in nature.
Two days ago , my mum was talking to my aunt that me and Noori are so different. Noori is so punctual & tidy, she says her prays regularly without my call & much more stuff!  I thought that why she just didn't say that my one twin is perfect? She didn't even say a word for me. I am not so untidy or irregular that she forgot me. 
Behaviour of twins and normal siblings is too different.
I ask everything to her before doing , it doesn't mean I can't my own descisions, she understands that's the only reason for me to ask.

It's not like that I envy her or anything , I love her too much , she is my twin sister after all. I just hate when my family tag me only in talks like " She did great art last week " , "She writes well " Or "She is hilarious". I accept that I sometimes forget my wallet at home , then borrow money from Noori , I never knew that I will pay high for it.


It feels no good to be compared by your own twin. Sometimes it's ignominy.
A word not to remember is that she is like you (maybe) , by the time passes it's a bad feeling of thinking against her , but it's not her fault neither mine. It's just fault. 
Many of my readers are mums. Maybe they can understand this thing easily.
My Monday motivation is to be better for my family , I don't know what they are really expecting from me. But I will try :)





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43 comments:

  1. Don't feel sad! Everything will get better, i hope so :) It's the opposite with me. I don't have a twin but an older sister. I am always better at things and my family says that too. But i kind of feel bad for my sister... I don't want my family to talk good only about me. They should also say good things to her. Maybe your sister feels the same as i do, but maybe not :)
    -be strong!

    http://fantasyfashioned.blogspot.de
    xx

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    1. Oh yeah , I have started a program to be better :) She is so kind to me as all sisters are , I said it's not her fault. It's just me maybe.

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  2. One of my best friends is a twin and she really didn't like it for a time, but now they are much closer. I am sure it will sort itself out :/ <3
    Love
    Annabelle
    TheCurleyGirl
    xxxx

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    1. As long as I try to sort out things :)

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  3. Stay strong! I don't like being compared as well. I mean, we're all different and we have our own strengths and weaknesses. :)

    http://shikimikie.blogspot.com

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    1. Thanks. yeah , that's the girl!

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  4. Areeba, you are special and loved just the way you are. Don't dwell on the negative side of things. Put your heads up because you are unique, you are an individual, and every day is a chance for you not only to be better but gear towards the best.

    Hugs,
    Betina
    The Boyfriend Project

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    1. Thanks Betina for such kind words :) I am on my way to be better , not more than her but just better for my family!

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  5. I'm not sure what it's like to have a twin, but I don't think I would like it very much.

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    1. Haha it's kinda awesome from positive way :D

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  6. Just remember Aree, each of us is unique! God made us the way we are so you don't have to feel sad or something. Cheer up lovely lady! You are you in your own way! :)

    xo,
    <a href="http://thefeistymamma.blogspot.com>Ella</a>

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  7. I will just tell you to keep working at getting better. It happens to the best of us, sometimes parents even compare you to your cousins in that tone. it is what it is, all we can do is get better. You are you, we cant all be the same.

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    1. Yeah true :) I am doing work to get better :)

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  8. I am sure that you have some wonderful qualities too!

    It's so cool that you have a twin, I've always wanted one, or a sister at least. I have 3 older brothers!

    Corinne x
    www.skinnedcartree.com

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    1. Thanks,
      Lol , it is! Oh my , lucky you I always wanted to be only one with 4 brothers!

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  9. Hi Areeba,
    I am not a twin, and I did not give birth to twins...but in my extended family (cousins, grandparents, etc) we have 3 sets of twins in our family. Believe me some of them are as diferent as night and day, and I do mean different! Please do not feel bad that you are not like your twin. You are you own beautiful person and people love you for who you are! We all have our own personality, nothing says we all have to be alike :) Cheer up dear one and remember that God loves you ♥

    Your friend,
    Dawn

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    1. Hi Dawn ,
      I am so thankful to you for these words. All I concluded from the things is that it's better to be changed. Yeah siblings are always different , I am different so I will keep this thing :)

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  10. This was touching to read. I've always wonder how life would be different if I had a twin. I thought it would have been fun to have somebody help with homework, or share clothes with, but I never thought about situations such as these. I would agree with everyone else and say continue to be strong. You are growing, and changing, and learning each and everyday!! Nobody's perfect and we each have to find our own way in our own time! So, enjoy your life and be you! I'm sure you're loved for being just who you are!!

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    1. Sometimes it's beyond fun to have a twin. I think God has done this for me to find my own way :)
      Yeah thanks :)

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  11. I've always wanted a twin but I bet it can be hard at times too xx

    ide love if you checked my blog! xx 1stepclosereveryday.blogspot.com

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  12. Don't worry about it at all! You will both develop into different women and different people. People compare siblings all the time (not just twins) and you can't let it get to you as a person inside.
    -Jamie
    ChatterBlossom

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    1. Thanks Jamie. Yes it's true :)

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  13. I've often wondered what it must be like to have a twin. My parents often compared me and my sister too. Even though you both look alike, you both have your own qualities. I've been reading your blog for a while now and know that you are a great person and super talented in loads of things!
    Take care
    x
    Bel
    http://b-by-bel.blogspot.com

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    1. It's complicated honestly, none can tell right! Thanks Bel :)

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  14. Areeba,
    All siblings go through times when they feel that they are not as good when compared to their brothers or sisters. You have it even more tough with being a twin. Just remember that you are good at things to, and it's not just Noor. Many times with twins the two are opposites or complement each other's characteristics. If Noor is more punctual or tidy than you, then you might have a more free spirit and creative side to your personality. There are positives of both! Don't be too hard on yourself.
    My daughter and son constantly compare themselves, but they are almost as different as night and day (and they are 5 years apart). They will get through it. You will get through it. I'm sure of it.

    Smile today. =0) And just be you.

    ~Kim
    http://2justByou.blogspot.com

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    1. Yeah Kim , it's true we both have good/bad qualities. The only thing which made me write this was mum. I always think me and noor are parallel twins like the rest but few days were so tough. I think I found my way now :)

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  15. I came back to share this with you for some motivation:
    http://pinterest.com/pin/171207223306900828/
    and this
    http://pinterest.com/pin/171207223306887356/

    =0)

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    1. Oh Thank you so kuch Kim , it really means so much :) Made my day!

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  16. Oh Areeba, it's so difficult being compared to another, especially a sibling. I can't even imagine how hard it must be to have a twin. But I'm absolutely certain that you are just as wonderful at different things than your sister and the adults may have forgotten to mention it. I encourage you to continue to do the things you love, and just be yourself. Because I've read your blog and are amazed at what an intelligent young woman you are. Honestly, I'm extremely impressed with your writing and your thoughts, especially considering how young you are. I have three little kiddos and you've challenged me to make sure I compliment them each on the things they are good at. Because each one is so unique. Sometimes what makes it hard with one is actually what also makes them so wonderfully special. Anyway, I hope you know how beautiful and special you are.

    Claire
    http://spinning-threads.blogspot.com

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    1. Thanks Claire :) I am glad you stopped here. Your kids are so special and lovely.

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  17. Thats too bad! I hope it changes real soon. My 2 older sisters are close in age & always get compared but I dont. I guess because I am 8 years younger!
    Alexandra <3

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    1. Woo girl , you got a way! Mayeb it's changing! :)

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  18. Your blog is so lovely and you are BEAUTIFUL!! Thank you so much for stopping by my blog, "She Calls Me Mama Leisha" and for following me. You are a sweetheart and I want you to know I appreciate your kindness and support. I'm following you now, too! I'm following you via GFC. Looking forward to reading more from you, my new friend!

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    1. Thanks Aleisha :)Nice to meet you :)

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  19. well everybody is different and unique. you can't compare people like that because everyone is different and beautiful in it's own way. keep calm and stay strong :) show them how great you actually are !
    have a good day

    xoxo
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  20. My mom used to do that, she compared me to my cousins and I didn't like it so I told her(not in a disrespectful way) that everyone is different and I dont like being compared to anyone. She never compared me to anyone after that, I am so glad that I talked to her and that she listened :)

    Also, I think that moms compare their kids to others to motivate them, not to hurt them. Maybe you should talk to your mom as well, its just a suggestion, it worked for me, maybe it will work for you too. Take care.

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  21. Oh honey, you're young yet. There will be plenty of time to flourish as you grow older and the so-called "flaws" will be your strengths! I sure you have characteristics that she envys too! I am a very punctual and tidy person myself (we call that type A) and I envy those who are more relaxed and are not bothered by remedial tasks. Trust me it is stressful being organized and doing everything "right." I'm sure you are just as wonderful as your sister in your own right :)

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    xoxo Tori

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